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Xyphos · Posted: Sat Jul 17,2010 9:06am-55 Post subject: Single and Scarred for life.

This thread is in Chai's forum because he sorta brought it up on air.

Women constantly complain "It's so hard to find a good man"
well... let's find out why.

My last "serious" relationship was 3 years ago.
I met a nice young lady; she was 22 back then, I was 25.
she was a Libra, and I'm a Gemini - the perfect match.

we dated for a year then moved in together.
8 months after that, I relized that she was the one for me.
I went ring shopping, found one that she would've absolutely loved but it costed $2499.
I started to work some overtime in order to buy her that ring so I could pop the question properly.
3 months pass, I finally bought the ring with the overtime earnings.
I kept it in my safe deposit box at the bank until our second aniversary.

on our second aniversary, I managed to talk my boss into letting me go home early (I made up the excuse that the overtime was wearing on me)

I bought her flowers, candy and got the ring out of the bank deposit box
I come "home" (her apt.) early and quietly sneak in, I wanted to surprise her.

heh... I was the one in for the surprise cuz when I got in the bathroom, I found her in the tub WITH HER SISTERS FIANCÉE!

I didn't say a word, I just dropped the flowers on the floor, went to my computer, ripped out the hard drive, rolled my sword collection in my blanket and left. leaving everything else behind.

to this day, that wound hasn't healed and it probably never will.

Sprklygrrl · Posted: Sat Jul 17,2010 1:40pm-04 Post subject:

Wow. That is absolutely horrible! I can't begin to imagine how traumatizing that was for you. Don't give up though, dude. I can understand that a situation like that would leave some serious wounds, but don't lose all hope, because there are also some good women out there who would love to be with a nice guy and spoil him rotten. Trust me Wink

Jezebelle · Posted: Sat Jul 17,2010 5:47pm-53 Post subject:

I don't think I can adequately imagine how much that hurt. I'm really sorry to hear you had to go through something like that. That sounds like the backstory to some slasher flick or serial murder mystery. We're not going to hear about you and her sister team-stalking oversexed camp counselors or something are we? Just take it easy with those swords, huh?

Sorry, humor just makes a good defense mechanism. Seriously, though, Sprkly's right. Don't give up on all women. People are all different, and she apparently just wasn't the right one for you yet. Maybe you weren't completely wrong about her, but she needed to make some stupid mistakes on the way to growing up some more first. That's pretty common at that age. Whatever her story is, there was a man there doing the same thing to someone else, so you can't blame it all on the fact that she's a woman. Just blame her. And maybe him, too.

Still a good reason for taking a break from dating and relationships for a while. Just a while, mind. Time and distance can heal a lot. And the next one will really have to earn your trust.

Shigy · Posted: Sun Jul 18,2010 12:01am-15 Post subject:

Dude that sucks. There are bad males and females. There are also plenty that makes mistakes. You'll know when your ready to get back into it.

Audrima · Posted: Sun Jul 18,2010 1:39am-34 Post subject:

ouch Xyphos! *huggles*

I can't speak much only had 2. but I say my first girlfriend was vary much a hm ya. I went back to guys ^_^ my first Boyfriend was vary nice...until I found out he was married! both sides have bad people my advice is play both fields more options that way. Very Happy

Meo =^.^=

Cheese · Posted: Sun Jul 18,2010 3:52pm-05 Post subject:

Love is fantastic because your fiancé loves you. However she might also love everyone else you know in the back of a van.

Yeah I also have a similar story, but I tell ya what...
Was the BEST thing that ever happened in my life. Betrayal doesn’t heal quickly if ever, but my god I saw her a few years later and had never been happier that she left me. Real eye opener that I was pretty blinded by what good I saw and had ignored the bad too long.

Good luck and come on down, the pit welcomes you, many friends here.
Bottom line is that human trash has no gender preference, good luck to all.

Kerrigan7 · Posted: Sun Jul 18,2010 11:47pm-36 Post subject:

Like a wise man once said, love's the funeral of hearts. It's great when it lasts, but when it dies, you need to make your peace with it and try to move on.

Samalicious · Posted: Thu Jul 22,2010 3:08pm-23 Post subject:

*snuggles* I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. Nearly everyone has had at least one heartbreak that still twinges every now and again. Time doesn't heal wounds of the heart, only makes them more bearable. Take your time to mourn, however long that is.

As an opinionated, independent Scorpio woman I tend to have my demeanor mistaken for coldness, rudeness or simple apathy because I get formal when uncomfortable or hurt. My ex-fiance made this mistake & left me for his best friend's wife. Still hurts 5 years later but I refuse to let his decision cause me to miss an opportunity for affection. Actual love? Well, that's to be determined, as I lack prospects. Wink

Ranssom · Posted: Sun Jul 25,2010 11:59pm-22 Post subject: Don't give up

I have a hard time trusting poeple from years of being stabbed in the back harshly like that.

Stay strong and don't give up on Love and I'm not just talking romantic love more like Bob Marley's one love. and....

"You gotta hide your love away." John

CanISeeUrFroobies · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 6:21pm-09 Post subject:

Tossing the plugged in blow dryer into the tub would of been appropriate. Twisted Evil

Then proceeding to hit on her sister...yea defiantly!

WarlordAlpha · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 10:03pm-54 Post subject:

oh wow.... thats bad...

though i woulda been just as bad if it was me... i woulda said oh wow... how nice of you two getting along so well.... then take the cellphone out call her sister and say "hey if you lost yer fiance i found him in the tub with yer sister... you wanna talk to them?" then pass the phone to them and tell them to say hi.

TwoTimeToxic · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 11:49pm-03 Post subject:

man that sucks. if i had been in that situation i would have gotten my glock out of my gun safe and just put 1 9mm in her head and 1 9mm in the dudes head and wipe of the gun and put it in his hand and fire 3 in her heart from his hand leaving GSR on his hand and then let his hand fall into the bathtub and leave.

Lauri · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 11:51pm-09 Post subject:

Wowee guys.

I think we're getting a tad out of hand here. Domestic violence is not cool, mmkay? Smile

TwoTimeToxic · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 11:54pm-12 Post subject:

TwoTimeToxic · Posted: Wed Aug 18,2010 11:56pm-50 Post subject:

and maybe get sentenced to 3 years in jail serve 1, and 2 years probation with psychiatric care.